25 things you’ll learn about family by 25

Every person needs a place of belonging where they will give and receive love, and the family is one such place. By the time you are 25, these are some of the things you’ll learn about family:

You don’t choose your family

But once you become an adult, you do choose your family. You decide who to marry and how many kids to have

Depending on your family’s financial situation, when you’re an adult, you become the breadwinner

Carrying everyone on your shoulders is no easy task

You’ll realize that it’s not by coincidence that you were born into your family

You’ll realize that your family helped shape you into the person that you are today

There’ll come a time when your family members will no longer be with you

Losing them will rock your world

Some of your friends will become as close as family to you

There will be good times when everyone is getting along; there will be bad times when everyone is fighting with each other, and there will be crazy times when everyone is getting on each other’s nerves

You’ll value your siblings, and they’ll become your closest friends

Or you won’t – but you’ll realize that mending the relationship is a choice from all parties

The same goes for other members of your family

You’ll be happy to have a double bed and a bedroom all to yourself if you move out of home

You’ll be more than happy to receive any hand-me-downs from your parents

When you visit home, you’ll still be expected to do chores

You’ll still squabble with your siblings about who does the dishes

Someone will always hog the television

You’ll realize that extended family can be a lot

That one cousin that refuses to stand on their own feet, that aunt that stirs trouble through gossip, that one uncle that everyone flees from when drunk…

You’ll develop a love/hate relationship with family gatherings

Sometimes family members will rock up at your place unexpectedly. You’ll either pretend you’re not at home or you’ll let them in and feel frustrated that they didn’t call you first

You’ll have a better appreciation of elders in your family

They have tons of heritage, culture and identity to pass on to you

You’ll realize that families are important building blocks of society – they can either raise healthy people who contribute meaningfully to society or raise broken people spend their lives trying to heal from the pain of abuse and abandonment while wrecking havoc on others around them.

* image from Pexels.

8 thoughts on “25 things you’ll learn about family by 25

  1. I totally agree with most of this… I loved your comment “That one cousin that refuses to stand on their own feet, that aunt that stirs trouble through gossip, that one uncle that everyone flees from when drunk…” That is sooooo on point! Thanks for this reminder though, we all need reminding of the importance of family sometimes 💚

  2. I totally agree that you choose your family. As I’ve gotten older I have developed relationships that turned into more family than friendship.

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