Going on a first date can be both exciting and daunting.
You feel great about getting to know someone that you like very much and the prospect of a new relationship excites you. However, you want to put your best foot forward, and that’s what makes you nervous.
The first date is all about getting to know the person you’re interested in, and it really shouldn’t be a nerve-wracking or awkward experience. It should be chilled out and fun, with tons of conversation.
The obvious thing that needs to be done to make the first date happen is setting it up. Ask the person you’re interested in out on a date, perhaps suggesting a coffee, lunch or movie date. I prefer food-based dates over movies because it’s the perfect set up for conversation. Everybody loves a good meal, even if it’s coffee and muffins.
Arrive at the agreed on destination on time. Don’t set a bad impression by arriving late, which can be interpreted as you being unable to stick to your commitments. Remember that people take time out of their schedules to give attention to things they deem important, so respect that by being on time.
Dress up for the date. It doesn’t mean that you need to wear a tuxedo or a ball gown, but don’t look like you just got out of bed either. Looking your best can also do wonders for your self-confidence, which is a must-have to impress your date.
Be sure to be a great conversationalist while being a good listener. The whole point of the date is to get to know each other better, so strike up conversation about anything from everyday life to your interests and pet peeves. Listen when your date speaks because they’re letting you into their world and giving you a snapshot of how they see things. You’ll be able to decide from conversation whether or not you two are compatible.
Please eat like a normal person, because there’s nothing as worse as someone ordering food, only to nibble on it and pretend that they’re full by not finishing it. It’s not impressive. At the same time, maybe don’t go for messy foods like ribs. Having barbecue sauce all over your mouth, fingers and possibly on your shirt is cool – for the 3rd date. It’s a good idea to eat something before the date so that you’re not hungry and grumpy by the time you meet your love interest. Being nice on an empty stomach is difficult, especially if you’re the grumpy type when hungry.
Make sure you have fun. Sure, you’ll be self-conscious on the first date because you’re trying to impress, but don’t forget to laugh and enjoy yourself. Your date will definitely enjoy your company if you’re relaxed and are your true self.
So go on your first date and have a blast. Remember that a flirt here and there goes a long way in showing your interest, but above all, just be yourself because that’s who your date fell for in the first place 🙂
*image from Cosmopolitan.