I couldn’t help but scream in my head when I saw a picture of US female rapper Lil Kim while paging through a magazine this past weekend. I mean, the woman looks like a Barbie doll gone wrong, and even brings plastic to shame. So much plastic surgery should be declared illegal! But looking at Lil Kim got me thinking about what could have caused her to go under the knife to the point where her natural beauty is almost gone, because she was pretty before all the surgeries. Perhaps it was the fact that she was left to fend for herself at a very young age and her self-image and self-esteem was not properly affirmed by her parents.
Lil Kim had a pretty decent family until her parents divorced when she was 9 years old. After the divorce, Kim lived with her father and it turns out that their relationship was not a good one. Her dad was quite the authoritarian type and Kim was a rebellious child, so they were constantly at each other throats. There’s not much mention on where Kim’s mom was at the time when Kim was a teen and needed her mom to help her grow into her identity as a woman. So due to the strenuous relationship with her dad, Kim left home and stayed on the streets, where she hanged out with druggies and got involved with all types of bad boys. She even worked as a prostitute in order to support her lifestyle on the streets.
It’s not a coincidence that in her late thirties, Lil Kim is turning to plastic surgery to deal with whatever’s going on with her emotionally. Even Michael Jackson once admitted in an interview a couple of years back that he used plastic surgery as a way to escape the sadness of his childhood. I think that Lil Kim’s over the top plastic surgery is a result of low self-esteem and really feeling like she’s not beautiful enough. Her parents never really affirmed her as a woman while she was growing up, which (as per the results we see on her body) have resulted in her hopping from one knife to another, even from one man to another, to find affirmation. Relationships can either make or break a person, and in Kim’s story, she hasn’t exactly hooked up with the right men who added value to her life. They probably used and abused so much that she believed she wasn’t worth much as a woman. And by all her images in most of her pictures and videos, it’s quite clear that she’s into sex and being the ‘sexually powerful woman’ who brings men to their knees. But in essence (as the older women in my family used to say to us the younger women when giving random sex education talks), a woman generally gives sex in exchange for love, so in Kim’s case, clearly she’s was trying to get the love and affection that she didn’t receive from her parents, and mostly from her father. She even referred to Notorious B.I.G as a father figure when Biggie first discovered her while she was still living on the streets.
Ultimately, I feel sorry for Lil Kim as it seems like she’s trying to fill a big emotional void with plastic surgery. It’s one of those human things though; that when we’re going through difficulties we tend to turn to external things to make us feel better. And before all the surgery, she really was beautiful and there was nothing wrong with her. I just hope that she deals with her issues through therapy and not through putting more plastic on herself.